Sunday, August 23, 2009

Milestones

Harrison thinks he is hilarious.

The first year of being a mom (and actually about the 5 months before I became one), I stayed brushed-up on milestones for Harrison. Lacking much, if any, experience with kids, I wanted to know what to expect. He was pretty late on things physically which got me all wrapped up and worried about him. In the end (through a lot of self-coaching), I realized, well, every child does everything differently and on their own schedules. But as a first time mom, and potentially a very competitive mom, I want my child to achieve these milestones early. Harrison didn't really do anything early (except sleep through the night, which I am uber-thankful for), and I was always searching for excuses. It's funny how motherhood will bring you face-to-face with your sin. I have often reflected how this competitive trait of mine would manifest itself in me as a mother. I don't think it’s pretty. However, I do think that coming to the realization that every child is different and no matter what Harrison does, I am going to love him unconditionally, will help me to avoid the pitfalls of the competitive mom. I do know that is something that I will have to be aware of the rest of my life, as I am sure it could show its ugly head at any given moment (on the soccer field, in high school, etc). As our lives have been in transition the past couple of months, I don't think that I have even picked up a book about toddlers since he turned one. I do enjoy the books, but not reading them has been freeing. I think I've hit a milestone as a mom, and hopefully not just temporarily.
Harrison, on the other hand, has shown a lot of interest in wanting to feed himself. And this is a milestone that, frankly, I don't have the patience to work for with him. We already have all of our meals down to a science. Harrison learning to feed himself triples the time and the mess. When we were with Nana, she had the patience to work with him on it. And now, he really wants to try to feed himself even if crumbs only make it into his mouth. The other night, Harrison fed himself spaghetti and ruined his clothes, but got about 70% of the food in his mouth. I thought that was great. I have no idea when the self-feeding milestone is supposed to be met, but I would say that Harrison is almost there. For the record, I find it very frustrating that he insists on feeding himself. I guess it is good for me. Add patience to the laundry list of milestones that I am learning (and re-learning). As an aside: I had a really cute video of Harrison feeding himself, but it won't upload.

3 comments:

Sherry at EX Marks the Spot said...

That photo is adorable. I saw that expression a lot last week.

Mark and Lindsay said...

Harrison is SOO cute! I love that face! Anyway, I don't know that there isn't a mom out there that doesn't start looking at other children/moms and start questioning or doubting things. I definitely get myself in trouble with the comparison trap. Honestly, I look to you to see how to be a great working mom who has raised a really lovely little boy -although I am not raising a boy :)

Leah said...

hey friend! glad that everything is going well. he is such a cutie!